“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.”
― Frederick Douglass
There are various times in life we will be deceptive to ourselves, and deceptive to other individuals out of fear of ridicule, prejudice, judgment, abandonment, rejection, intimidation, or fear. Speak out loud anyway! Allow yourself to move forward in a new direction leaving the old life behind.
When the Introverted Millennial remains docile, becomes a doormat, and allow more dominate individuals to silence their voice they become trapped in their self-made prison believing they don’t have the freedom to speak their voice. They may become frozen in fear, thinking they can’t move forward in a new direction.
For many years Introverts can avoid conflict, try to avoid confrontation, but only to find out life will keep pushing them to the limits until they find the courage deep inside to stand up for themselves. Self-mastery is learning to propel your-self in a positive direction where you can take your personal power back and not allow other individuals to walk all over you.
Confrontation is part of life and while Introverts like to run from it, at the same time they can be self-sabotaging themselves, by allowing more dominate individuals to take their relationships, materialism and finances from them by playing the martyr and not setting personal boundaries.
This is a matter of self-worth, self-respect, self-dignity, self-confidence, self-love.
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters. This struggle may be a moral one; or it may be a physical one; or it may be both moral and physical; but it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will.” ~Fredrick Douglas
There are many times the Introverted Millennial may not feel like doing anything productive, procrastinate, escape into their inner rich world of entertainment, fantasy, fiction and feel perfectly fine escaping reality. Abandoning the world is easy to do. It’s pleasurable, self-satisfying dreaming about the world.
INFJ’s are the master escape artists. They find every way possible to escape life. They even may feel like they’re trapped in this Globe we call the world, and keep wanting to fly away into space and float away into a more non-violent world.
At the same age as the Introverted Millennials I didn’t quite grasp the conscious Idea that Depression was away to escape the emotional and mental pain.
I would self-sabotage myself by escaping reality. This has taken many forms along the way. At the age of 18 I was very skinny and almost Anorexic, although I wasn’t an actual anorexic, I just worried myself to death, was frozen in fear, became so anxious I didn’t want to eat half the time. Along the way I would I tried to escape through alcohol, marijuana, relationships, video games, movies, novels, spiritual bypassing by reading everything imaginable.
It’s healthy to an extent to escape reality, or else we would be insane from all the madness in the world. I would watch the news, Violence, Anger, Rage, Murder, Crime, Rape, Bitterness, Revenge, Bombings, Shootings, and it was all about emotional, mental, spiritual, physical death.
In 2010, I decided to turn off the violence. I decided perhaps it was more fun writing poetry, novel, short-stories, non-fiction, and started removing myself from all the violent commotion on television.
I went for three years without watching Television, News, and selecting my own music and movies I thought were more positive, inspirational, or read books with more positive content.
At least if I was creating something, this was a form of action. I was moving my mind by educating myself, traveling around the world on the Internet, and I also was studying for my degree. I met wonderful individuals around the world. The internet was full of possibilities.
The internet can also be a way to escape reality, it’s how utilize it, what are you focused on, and whether you’re educating yourself, or playing and escaping all the time.
I believe Many Introverted Millennials get stuck in the Chaos and Confusion of the world, and sometimes you must shut off the world, and create the world you rather live in.
While there are times the Introverted Millennial may procrastinate, they may not feel like doing anything, sitting back, and watching life pass them bye.
The world doesn’t get better until they choose to do something about the circumstances they’re in. They may feel they don’t have a choice, feel trapped, feel cornered, feel they can’t get out of their circumstances, but they do have the personal power to make better choices for their life.
“I prayed for freedom for twenty years, but received no answer until I prayed with my legs.” ~ Fredrick Douglas
Circumstance never change until the Introverted Millennial becomes versatile and moves their body, their mind, their emotions, and their feelings in a different direction. Action is the key to success in life. Inaction means you’re not moving forward.
Do the opposite of what you’re doing now?
Get up out of the Victim mentality that seems to be a virus conditioned by society. You’re not a victim. You’re the one person who can liberate yourself from you circumstances.
Whenever you’re traveling in your mind back to the painful days of yesterday, you get lost in time. You’re missing the opportunities now today to thrive.
Life is created today. The past can never be repeated unless you keep recreating the same reaction to life.
“Without a struggle, there can be no progress.”
~ Frederick Douglass
Struggle is a part of life. At first, it’s the hardest to break emotional, mental, physical, sexual, spiritual, financial habits that no longer serve our best interests.
It takes 21 days to break one habit. It takes 21 days to form a new habit. And even after this, you must keep repeating the same action 365 days a year until becomes a natural action without even thinking about it anymore. It becomes automatic.
The first few miles are the hardest, it becomes easier and lighter the rest of the way and you learn to let go of the struggle.